Play & Pleasure
Play & Pleasure is a multi session skills and relationship building workshop for men who have sex with men. Inspired by the philosophy of sex positivity, our Peer Support Team have developed the program to help men build the confidence, knowledge and skills necessary to have the sex they want. Play & Pleasure creates a fun, social and informal environment for facilitators to share ideas about sex positivity and how to achieve a more healthy relationship, while providing up to date information and fulfilling skills to take home and improve your own sex life! Each session is hosted in the large function room, allowing space for participants to enjoy dinner during the session and network with other attendees. Read more about each session below - you can choose to attend the sessions that particularly interest you, or come along to every session. Whether you're attending solo, bringing a partner or as part of a group, we hope you'll join us to talk about the sex you want!
What is Sex positivity?
Sex positivity is the simple idea that healthy, explicitly consensual sex is a positive thing. Being sex positive means maintaining a healthy attitude towards sex and not only valuing the role sex plays in your life, but also your personal sexual needs. Sex positivity also embraces the idea of being sexually educated and staying safe. Individuals who are sex positive actively decide how and what they want from their sex lives, rather than let others dictate it.
Session 1: Building Positive Attitudes
"Confidence comes with maturity, being more accepting of yourself..."
This workshop will focus on building positive attitudes and self confidence, fostering positive self image, keeping perspective, being proactive and optimistic, letting go of past negative experiences and resentment.
Session 2: Communication for Sex
"Communication leads to understanding, to intimacy and shared values."
This workshop will focus on communicating what you want and don’t want, negotiating consent, rejecting and rejection and listening more effectively.
Session 3: Safe Sex Skills
"Sex is an emotion in motion"
This workshop will focus on educating skills and safe sex. Lets talk PrEP, PEP and UVL, review and discuss the range of safe sex strategies for HIV and STIs, how to communicate and negotiate these strategies. Also sex skills - where to get decent information and explore new things.
Session 4: Negotiating Relationships
"Emotions aren't the obstacles to a successful negotiation; they are the means."
This workshop will focus on negotiating relationships. Discuss different relationship styles: friends with benefits, lovers, and partnerships open and monogamous, and group play. Negotiating sexual needs in relationship, changes over time, keeping things interesting, dealing with breakups.
Session 5: Online Pleasure & Safety
2:45am "...u up?"
We focus on online dating and Hook-up Apps – how to negotiate the challenges and opportunities of online hook-up aps, including discussing HIV status on apps. Discussion will promote having a healthy relationship with Apps, how to make meaningful connections and use apps for your needs.
Session 6: A Healthy Approach to Porn & Toys
We have a distorted view of our fantasies ... because we don't talk about them enough."
How can you make porn a positive element in your healthy sex life? How do sex toys factor into your relationships? We talk about finding porn that supports sex life. Using Toys safely. Changing unhelpful habits. Possibly visit to The Ranch.
Session 7: Creativity and Sex
"Don't let the fear of not knowing how to do something stop you from trying. Curiosity drives us."
Our final session will focus on creativity and sex, how to keep safe when exploring new things, fetish and kink, openness and safety, fantasy and role play. Where to get help in exploring new things.
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